This was my response to her:

Thank you for showing me your raw feelings. I know that I caused you a lot of pain. You are right. Quality time is the one thing that I can’t give you. At least in the way that you feel loved. Especially while I work on movies.
It is all starting to make sense. I agree, your Love Language is definitely “Quality Time” with maybe “Physical Touch” being secondary I would think. I guess it wasn’t obvious but my primary Love Language is “Affirmation” with “special Touch” being secondary. This explains why all of the love and admiration that I thought I was doing for you was actually communicating nothing about how much I adored you.
My happiest times were also the times that we spent together. I craved you every day and savored every moment with you.
I would breathe you in. The scent of your body and to kiss the back of your neck always sent me over the edge. You “Rocked My World” every day.
I remember when you asked me that question. We were at a sexual road block and at that time we were not satisfying each other. We were just going through the motions. I had hope that we would have improved from there though.
As far as your love for me, you showed it to me every day. Because of my Love Language I felt love from you in what seemed like the simplest ways. I always felt wanted by you and Woooohh!, when you looked at me with your dreamy Italian Eyes and would run to me saying “My name" and jump into my arms with me swinging you like a clock pendulum I would breath you in and my tank was overfull. I was spilling over the edges with love for you. You were my Sunshine My Only Sunshine, And other various pet names we had. I felt love and it was you that kept my tank full.
This is why I questioned how I could just be friends with you. You have always been the most naturally beautify woman that I have ever seen. I have adored you from the first day I saw you. I thought, “how could I just be friends with someone I am so infatuated with”. Then I realized that no matter what, being friends was the best place to be right now. At least for the sake of our daughter.
Thanks again for communicating with me.

Me


Wife emotionally checked out 2 years ago
ILYBNLWY 2/1/2013
M-48, W-40
D-9
Living together in separation for daughter