Dawn, I am so sorry that things have not improved in your situation. You've tried everything, but actually packing his stuff up and sitting it on the front porch. September 1st has come and gone and he knows that you will not put him out. He knows you and what he thinks you will or will not do.
You can rationalize w/someone who has their head in a fog. It's frustrating and the more you try to talk to him, the more frustrated you are getting. You have several choices: 1) pack his stuff up and boot him out; 2) continue to live under the same roof, but understand that it's going to get worse before it gets better and you will need to find a way to accept him for who he is today and live like roommates; or 3) move out yourself, which I don't advocate.
Dawn, take the time away next weekend and truly think about what you want. You can't continue running on the hamster wheel because you aren't getting anywhere but round and round. The stress is going to start taking its toll on you and none of us wants to see you get sick. It's time that Dawn decide what she wants and needs to be happy, even if it means doing a totally 180 and dropping the rope completely and your ship and his continue to pass in the night.
Please, please take care of yourself. I'm very concerned about your health.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
