Day By Day

[AJM]

Very sorry to hear about your mom, Tad. Glad you're still posting and you are still making progress.

Snodderly's right - you are getting in too deep and your ex is still taking pot shots at you. She pointedly told you that you don't have to have the last word - she does.

Yes, but only because I gave HER the last word and didn't respond. I'm sure that she thought that I would have.

You were a little slow to see that (and that's why I'm calling it out).

I'm so done with her garbage.

Really?

Get it through your head, Tad. She won't leave you alone until she or you are six feet below the grass. If I was being mean, I would suggest you have them bury you face first so she can kiss...never mind. There's no point in meanness. Humor can help though.

Look Tad. You can't get through to her. You can't have a "normal" conversation with her. She will listen to anyone other than you on this planet. But you she will not listen to. It's just not going to happen anytime in your lifetime. (most likely; I can't see the future any more than you can).

Shake your head, let her have the last word - heck, let her have all the words - and walk along. You are the very last person on the planet that she can have a reasonable conversation with.

There will be more Tad. Believe me I wish it weren't so, but there will be more. More accusations. More spew (although if you're quiet, it's kind of comical how it comes out of nowhere), more vomitting of anger. But eventually, with you out of the picture, her anger will turn elsewhere. Somebody in the family may still be around to see it by then, but it can't be you. Anyone but you.

You cannot have a conversation, or at least a reasonable conversation with her, Tad. I feel ya, brother. Most of us here do.

Keep focused on the family. It's working well for you and you're catching up well and getting your balance back. I can see it in the change your posts.

Peace,
AJ