Just catching up, I know the driving thing is 'old news' but whatever you do with the L, you need this to be part of the agreement. You are right, it isn't about controlling, it is about sharing the responsibility - not to mention that the boys would have more time with you on the weekends she drove because she could have them to you when you got out of work. I hear you loud and clear on this one so have it made part of your S/D agreement or you will be driving until they get their own cars!
Good luck with the agreement, not sure how things work where you are but I hope it all works out for you without you being taken advantage of by W.
M 46 H 44 D 12 S 8 M 9 T 11 BD 2/15/13 "Makes sense to stay together" 5/12/13 Agree we are 'healing' 7/13 Definitely Piecing 9/13