Thanks Eric and Golfmom. I still come here Eric, but not as much as I used to either. Golfmom, my heart goes out to you. My grandmother had breast cancer and passed three weeks after 9/11. I will keep you in my thoughts.
Mom is still hanging on and is beginning to suffer quite a bit. She has some pain, is cold, talks, but can barely complete a sentence without falling asleep or forgetting what she is talking about. It hurts to see her like this. She looks as if she has aged 30 years in six months. I can't believe how quickly the cancer kicked her butt. She is even too weak to hold her own food. I see her atleast twice a day and am grateful for the time that we have right now, because I know soon she will be gone.
Had an interesting text exchange with XW today. It showed me how childish and angry she still is. I'm beginning to think that she still sees no good in me and I still wonder what I must have done to make her hate me so much.
The child support that she has been paying was supposed to end at the end of May, but didn't because she didn't put a stop to it when she was supposed to. In June, she asked if I was still getting it and I told her that I was. In July, she told me that it was still coming out of her check and I agreed because I was still getting payments. Well, it turns out that the last payment that I received came on 8/14 because she had me served with papers stating that I won't be getting anymore payments....and I didn't. I told her that they had stopped and also made a point to tell S18 that they had stopped because I knew that she would ask him. However, money is still being deducted from her check. Apparently, she has been bugging S20 for two days accusing me of lying about getting the payments.
Tonight, all four of my boys and S20's GF were out for dinner. XW starts texting S20 and accusing me of still getting the payments. S20 told me that he wished she would just leave him alone. So.....(I know. I know....a big no no....) I sent her a text:
ME: I have not received child support since 8/14. Please quit bothering S20.
XW: It would have been nice if you would have told me sooner when it stopped like I asked you to do. I'm entitled to that money. Thanks for the info....finally.
ME: I'm sorry that you "asked", but it isn't my problem or his.
XW: It might just be.
ME: You asked me last month if I was still receiving it and I told you that I was. That's fine. Go get everything you are entitled to. Peace.
**** CONVERSATION OVER? ****
No.
XW: I needed to know when it stopped coming to you.
ME: And I told you.
XW: You never told me that it stopped.
ME: Yes I did, but whatever.
**** CONVERSATION OVER? ****
No.
About an hour later, I get the following text:
XW: What a coinkadink! Got a letter in the mail today. It is over and I will be getting a refund.
ME: Yes, and as you can see, I haven't been receiving it. Imagine that.
XW: I didn't doubt it. I just didn't know since I was not told until today.
ME: You were told and you even thanked me for telling you.
XW: You are so full of sh!t.
ME: Ok.
**** CONVERSATION OVER? ****
No.
XW: That happened today. It certainly didn't happen when you stopped receiving the money.
ME: Ok. Leave me alone please.
**** CONVERSATION OVER? ****
No.
XW: Then stop texting me. You don't have to have the last word H.
ME: OK. Goodnight.
XW: See???
**** CONVERSATION OVER? ****
Yes, but only because I gave HER the last word and didn't respond. I'm sure that she thought that I would have.
I'm so done with her garbage.
Whatever dude.
Tad
Currently: M 56 XW 57 Sons 38,33,31,29
The Sitch: Married 26 years EA w/ OM 9/10 Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary) Sep 12/10 She wants D 1/11 W files 5/11 D final 10/11 XW marries OM 6/13
