Getting there with 180 and GALing part 2

[TryingToDo180]

Phoned another friend to have a chat and a destress, that helped Am now having a large spritzer

[2old]

extra spritz please.........

[TryingToDo180]

lol 2old, you can have the spritz, I'll have the wine

[MileHigh]

I've been struggling with the urge to snoop again. I had pretty much beaten it, but it reared its head again. Since we're settling in for a long separation, a lot of feelings have been coming up. But... the important thing is, I haven't done it!

I vacuumed and sprayed the carpet for fleas, instead! Oh, boy!!

[TryingToDo180]

Well done I've also resisted the urge to snoop I drink wine instead, lol. I don't think one spritzer is going to be enough tonight, my son's been stressing me out as well, lol.

[Not Quitting]

I definitely need the wine tonight . I volunteered to drive the Cadets on their fundraising tonight and didn't my car go and die just as it was time to pick my group up. Had to call their commanding officer to rescue the kids and then call the auto club to give me a boost - and don't they tell me I need to replace the battery. They got it started, I got it home and my dad (a retired mechanic thankfully) got it on trickle charge. Could do without the expense of a new battery, but guess I'm grateful that it was only the battery.

That calls for the large glass - but only the one.

[TryingToDo180]

Sorry to hear about your car trouble Your large glass is equivalent to my 2 spritzers anyway, lol.
I don't think I mentioned the whole of the conversation I had with my mum, I was too stressed last night, lol. Anyway she starts off by saying how tall my son looks in the photos I sent him, but he appears to be putting on a bit of weight. I told her that's because he needs to exercise more and I'm trying to find him other activities to keep him occupied. She said she hopes I'm not feeding him junk food, no mum was my reply lol. Tonight we're having burgers and wedges, but I didn't tell her that. She is obsessed with weight, it drives me mad! I'm at a healthy weight now for my height and she still wants me to lose more weight! Anyway that's when she went on to say "I bet your H feeds him junk food". At first I said I don't know what he gets when he's round there, but I do know that he does feed my son junk food. That really got my back up now, whenever she talks about my H she always does it with so much hate in her voice and it really upsets me. She's done this for a while now, even when H was living here and it really upsets me.
My distressed friend text me this morning to say that she couldn't meet me for a coffee and I'd already cancelled my other friend that I was going to meet up for a coffee with. I text her back and said why aren't you meeting me for a coffee now? I've cancelled another friend and now she has made other plans as well. She's text me back to say she will meet me after all! I can't be doing with all this drama from my friends, I bet it ends up to be nothing at all after all this!
I texted H this morning to make sure he was still having our son over this Sat. I was supposed to be going out with a friend tomorrow but she's cancelled on me as well! I took people's advice on the text and put "Hi, I hope you had a nice few days away. Are you still seeing our son this sat?" He's not replied back, but it's still early so maybe he's still asleep, lol. If he cancels this time, I'll go back to the original plan that we were going to do before H said that he was having our son over.

[Not Quitting]

It might have been 2 large glasses if I'd gotten home earlier .

My H has said he may not be over Sunday as he's got a security gig tomorrow night which doesn't finish until 2:00am. Told S13 and he started coming up with alternative plans right away - and it's not even definite that his dad isn't coming over. Guess that means he's not in the least bit fazed by it - I'm really glad about that.

I agree - stick with your original plans if your H does cancel.

[TryingToDo180]

Still not heard from H. It's not fair as I need to make plans with my friends. My first friend cancelled, but I don't want to make any further plans until I know if my son is definitely going over or not. I can see myself going out on my own, hmmmm!
Met up with my friend this morning for a coffee. She's got to go in for a disciplinary for work this afternoon. She's blaming herself for this, but in my opinion the other person is as much to blame as her! I was able to apply some of the DB principles and PMA principles to her this morning. She was much more positive about the disciplinary when I left her She is beginning to see it's not all her fault, which is a good thing You're right that I can apply 180 and DB to other parts of my life as well
I had another social worker round this afternoon. She agreed that the assessment that was made last was very negative and she has changed it. She will be working with other organisations to put some things in place for my son Unfortunately my son doesn't meet the criteria for direct help from social services, but at least now he's getting signposted to others who can help him So all in all a much positive day Now all I need is to hear from H as to whether my son is going over tomorrow or not. That is stressing me out at the mo! At this rate my bottle of wine won't last a week, just a few days, lol. Can't you tell I get easily stressed, lol.

[TryingToDo180]

I forgot to mention that after MH's mammoth spring clean I decided to finish off the bookcase. I also pulled it away from the wall and dusted behind there. The book case is now clutter free and I can use the space to put more books in that have been left lying around because I've not had much space. I now need to declutter the bookcase in the living room and try and move it to the conservatory for now whilst I strip the wallpaper behind it. A mammoth task that I've been putting off for ages! watch this space! lol. BTW, it probably won't be done for a while yet so I want no-one on here to keep asking me if I've done it yet or not, lol