Well the transfers came in and I am going back to the city for next year. Such a huge relief has hit. I can feel like I am in some control of my life now. It still was very emotional opening my email about the transfer, as it still feels like I am walking away from my wife. I certainly accept that she is the one who left me and I have tried very hard for the last 11 months to do positives for us, but it simply hasn't happened. Whatever the case, finding out about the transfer, opened up a lot of emotions when I did read it. I have decided I won't be telling the W about the transfer, and if she does ask/texts then I will wait the 48hrs, ask the forum and still probably feel that it is no longer her right to know these things.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
Thanks T1000, after some early morning emotions, it is an awesome feeling now.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
It's funny how emotions flow through us quite hard during times like this. I had a massive wave of emotion when W brought up a quick D yesterday even though I had been thinking about it for while.
Luckily the longer your at this the quicker it flows on past.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
I agree with T. Sometimes I think I am doing fine and then the smallest thing will trigger waves of emotion. Probably because it is constantly in the back of your mind.
You are doing great things for yourself, so hang in there.
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.
Great news HWA, sounds like this is just what you needed. Probably will help you help out greatly emotionally also. Something different for a change gives you o ther things to concentrate on............
Thank you all. Pudmuddle: so true, it is the smallest of things that set you off. 2old: it is exactly what I needed. F: Thank you heaps, we now have the verandah for those beers and sunset, overlooking the pool. I cannot offer the sheeps and cows at my house though. Good luck with the op if you get the chance to read before going.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
Folks, I will be going on holidays in less than 24 hours. Most probably with very little internet connection. I won't be back to my house until the 6th October. So no need to worry about me, I am in a very good place. Looking forward to seeing my sons, friends and going to visit a place (Melboune) that I haven't seen before. Will be enjoying lots of great coffee and chocolate, buying some new sized clothes and simply enjoying the holiday with an old school friend. In twelve weeks time I will be back in the city, hopefully in my own home (depends on the tenants moving out) and most importantly riding my motorbike.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
Hey HWA. That's great news. Have a wonderful holiday. Sounds like you are well and truely ready for one. You will enjoy Melbourne, plenty of great cafes and places to eat and things to do. Life's good!
With that I've gotta mention I've just come home from sea kayaking at Byron Bay. Wow what an adventure, but tired so tired, the swell was up and we were paddling into the wind on the way back. Phew!! Sightings of dolphins and whales just metres from our kayaks made it more than worthwhile. CU on your return.
