That's cool about your friends. Myself? Never had any desire to visit the Dominican - many other Carribean locales that I enjoy. But the Bride & Groom chose the destination. They had been there a couple of times and wanted family & friends along. Too many would not have been able to attend a "Destination Wedding" but they knew they could convince the wedding party/family to go for a "Destination Honeymoon". It will be over soon. I just hope he is having the time of his life!
Ashley admitted to me the other day that she really gave me grief as a teen. (nice to have that acknowledged). It drove a huge wedge between us that time and distance has started to heal. Still - I'm a bit gunshy around her at times and she still gets a bit snippy - nothing like it was in her late teens though. I'm glad for the opportunities we've been given. Who knows whether she will weather the weather (like that play on words?) But I want to do my best. As she is totally vegan - it is hard to host her for meals (although we try). But to share a movie, a game or a tv show works. On Sunday we watched Miss America together and had popcorn. That was nice and reminded me of years ago when my own Mom did the same with me from about the age of 5 on.
My ex gets no prize - that's for sure. Even Josh went out on his own and bought her a lovely gift. Not just tagging his name on with mine. He is good that way. He got her a lovely metal sign at a Garden Center to hang outside her new apt (It has a porch). It says Welcome and has butterflies on it. He knows that butterflies remind us of my Mom (her Nana).
My sister's Ex H has not done a thing for any of his 3 kids since he left 13 years ago. Usually not even a phone call. In that sense - he's worse than mine. But my kids expect a bit more from Chuck. Ashley got a bit teary on her real birthday. I know it was the stress of moving, new job, over tired but I also know that she felt let down by him. Hard to watch when you've done everything possible to make it grand but that's just the way it is.
It's pretty sad when he can't remember the day they were born. When he was there! When he is off with OW's illegitimate grandkids (her son seems to be a love em and leave em baby making machine) at Disney World yet hasn't seen his own kids for more than an hour in the past 12 years!
But we're busy making our own plans. Life is good here. She seems to be relieved to be away from Niagara where he still lives. I think, being there, it was much more obvious to her that he was only 10 min away yet never bothered to see her more than a couple of times a year. At least here she doesn't expect much. She did offer to come down so they could go out for her birthday but he didn't even respond.
Yes - it's better for Ryan that she is here. I will pay her to watch him at night when I'm away. It is better for him and she can use the extra $ - a win win situation.
