Need Separation Advice please!

[Mimi00]

I can relate alot to your sitch... I was living with my parents during my H's BD.... they kept saying move on b/c he has...let him go... I keep telling them it's not that easy and that they can't relate as obviously they are still together. My mom thinks she can understand b/c of her High school relationships. I couldn't take living there with them any more, so I moved out a month ago.

Your H not taking any furniture, my H did the same. He moved and told me to keep everything as if he is doing me a favor; no it's not a favor, that leaves ME with all the memories and you free to walk away, w/ no literal baggage. All of our stuff is in storage, I decided to leave it there and "start fresh" my self.

Even though my H is only 30 I think he's MLC as well and was very depressed IMO last time I saw him in July.

I also get confused on if I should still have hope or not.
I do have hope, but I've decided not to tell any one, especially not H. I am GALing as much as possible, I've moved to a new city and to H it probably looks like I am moving on as he is. I have no idea if that is good or bad, but all I can do is continue to live my life and hope for the best.

Only you know if you should keep hope or not, do what's best for you. But while you're hoping, what are your 180's to make your self better as a person? Which of those 180s also relate to issues your H brought up concerning your marriage?
You sitch is still in it's early stages. Give him time and space.... but be smart about the space, it's a delicate balance and everyone's relationship is unique. So apply the DB rules as necessary, not all may fit your sitch so choose wisely. Do you know your H's love languages? GAL and prepare your self for being the best your regardless of how things end up.