take another DB coaching session That's a good plan.
try Bettermen coaching, after reading NUTS again, How does that look to you? What do you hope to achieve after this?
run 9 miles on weekends, so that French friend and I can do this together, as he offered to last weekend. Talk to this friend - start by email? Geez...9 miles! That's way more than what I can do now. Good for you! Wow.
This month's Outside magazine has 'lifehacking' ideas This is interesting to me. I always learn something new from DB forums.
[How to be a good dad at a distance to daughter? show PMA in any case! The morning I left, I put in a storm window, because I thought it was good (warmer house!), and even though daughter said 'you should ask ma about that' don't ask for permission any longer, no more 'ma will know' or 'ma knows best' Good for you! Taking the initiative is showing some strength. Do you plan to text D and keep in touch with her while you're in the States?
contact my favorite cousin, with whom I had a falling out Cool! Hope you two can work things out. contact W or not while I am gone? do not pursue. That's right. No contact. Go dark on W.
Must ask/tell her about wanting to take kids on New Year's trip, even if she does not want to come. Should book trip soon. I'd suggest that you take charge and plan the details of the trip with your kids. You can offer W to join if she wants to. Keep it short.
Do ice rappeling, ice boating, talk to my Lebanese barber about any Arab drummers he may know, no one makes your dreams happen for you. This sounds like a real cool activity! Invite lunch club to hike on weekend after 1st meeting - everyone can walk! Hiking is fun and a great way to connect with people.
Beautiful torches at night in snow in Japanese movie Vibrator - something for us ? Forget about W. How about taking your kids there with you. It would be a nice bonding activity with your children.
Help wife renovate? That which I choose, not that which she tells me. We have a door that needs work, for example. Is this honoring my W and myself? I think it has nothing to do with honoring W. Just take charge and do projects around the house that you are able to do. Get up one morning and just tackle the door. Simple as that.
PMA - even though it bugs W. Not teflon happiness however. Validate her pain? More than I am sorry about how she feels? No R talk with W. Keep your mouth zipped. Unless W initiates R talk, then you can use validating statements. I am responsible for my happiness. Damn straight...you're ONLY responsible for your own happiness.
Get therapy (EE leader, maybe?) to help break behavior patterns. I would suggest that you start working on the boundary setting worksheets that can be found through Google. EE would be good.
Say good night and good morning every day. I'd suggest that you do that to the family. Not directed to only W.
I am worried not seeing daughter in the evenings - she has a long commute each way to Stockholm and has been speaking about getting a room/apartment there. Isn't she 16? You allow her to move out and live on her own at age 16? Not sure how things are like in Sweden. New jeans and new shirts. That's good. Do this FOR you to make yourself feel good about you.
Grow a beard? W hates beards. Is this action bringing you closer to the goal? If this repels W, then you might want to reconsider it.
W wants nothing from me - not the food I make, even. So what shall her xmas gifts be? She told me of one book she wants, I have another, I have a razor type she likes, and I think she would like the movie The East. Forget about taking W to the movies or any type of activity. She's not interested in you at all. As for Christmas, let's wait until you get closer to the holidays. A book would be a simple gift that is appropriate for W. Nothing romantic or anything like that.
Abandonment issue - Jealousy of my fancy job and travel and income You're mindreading. You don't know unless W has specifically expressed this to you directly.
I start interviewing college applicants to my alma mater next month, in Sweden. That's a good way of broadening your skills. Good job.
I am responsible for my own happiness and situation. You might want to rephrase it to "I'm responsible for my own happiness and actions" You really don't have a lot of control over your sitch. Actions do matter and it is within your control.
