It really is a strange line to walk, to attempt to treat him like the mailman. Where once I would react, now I think and think before I respond.
He did reply and told me about his change of car and that he moved into a one bedroom apartment. Nothing of course of the OW (which is the make it or break it for me).
Did not say when he moved. I am surprisingly not as hurt I as thought I should be. Just one more brick in the almost finished wall, really. Now that he has got that out, I think it may be awhile until I hear from him again.
I replied very generically: Asked if he was in the witness protection plan and said whole new life, I wouldn't recognize you and did you also dye your hair? Now, I think only the LBS dealing with MLCers will appreciate the subtext to that text but it is darn true! He is not the person I thought I knew. I am so wary of what I am being pulled into. Did anyone else feel the same? That at the beginning I was so afraid of losing him and now I am more afraid of being hurt all over again?
How this turns out, IDK. And I am strangely at peace with that. If he ups the contact, then he better be prepared to answer regarding GF. There is no point to trying to hold onto something dead. I have plans for the future and goals.
Magic, I stopped by your thread yesterday. I hope things are going better for you today. To answer your question, I didn't "wait" in terms of watching the clock before responding. Truthfully, I did not get his text until hours after he sent it. I waited until I had a response that I was comfortable giving. I knew I would respond as our contact has been very infrequent but DBing had taught me that my visceral reaction is not always (ahem! is RARELY) a good way to respond. Taking the time to respond ensures that I carry myself the way I want to.
