If I could write a letter to W, here's what it would say:
Dear W,
Last Monday, you came over and told me you loved me, and that you wanted to be married to me. You told me that every time you said, "I'm done" - God said, "No, W, you're not." We discussed our future, agreed to take our time (12 months minimum), talked about the need for counseling, agreed to begin dating.
Three days later, you were back to divorce. I offered to just sign the dissolution and get things over with on that Thursday. You texted and asked me if you could have more time to think things over, even though I agreed to let you go.
Friday, you invited me over and hugged me, joked with me, talked about our girls sharing a room. We worked on unpacking some stuff together, and talked about getting pizza for the kids. You asked for time and space, so I left.
Since last Saturday, I have not contacted you at all - with our last contact being a hug. Yesterday, you texted me about our new paperwork being completed, and said you'd see me at our court date in 3 weeks. I asked if you were still considering the things you said you were considering, and you said, "No".
You know how I feel: I love you, I believe in us, and I hate divorce. I won't belabor that. However, I also understand that you are struggling with a lot of things, and I can understand how hard that is; I've been doing some of that myself.
I hope you understand my confusion. The last two weeks have been very confusing, and you even told me you were confused. That's what brings my hesitation to the divorce. I feel like we are in no place to be making permanent decisions about our future when it's obvious those decisions are being based on emotions - on both our parts.
I think it would be wise to discuss. If it's not the time for discussion, then I definitely think it would be wise to wait; wait on God, wait to be sure our hearts and minds were clear, and make sure we have no regrets.
