We're seeing a therapist together, and I'm also seeing her, the therapist, separately, to try to sort myself out. I am miserable. But do I really want to throw over 33 years of fellowship and friendship for the uncertain hope of a possible future passion? Or can we, together, find some minimal satisfaction for us both? Or should we break with the principles of a lifetime and the promises that we made in church, and look at an 'open marriage'? It's all out there. But it's not much fun! I find it very hard to believe that life could get better.
Life will feel much better, the hues and contrasts greater with the addition of sex and intimacy. Of course being married you hope it's with your spouse.
Going back 1000's of years, they ahve had provisions for situations where the spouse just cannot copulate and everyone lives.
It's a tough decision, but it just may be better for you and your wife than throwing it all away.
