Separated, D filed, possible emotional affair

[2ndtimearoundCA]

From what I have read on this forum, it seems like completely detaching and letting your w think that she might lose you (and it might not be her choice) has been what has worked for others. There is some evidence that going completely dark helps. You need to do what works in your situation. I don't think confronting her about her going back and forth will help you.

Can you think of something totally unexpected and non-confrontational that might work for YOU? Is there some 180 that you could do that you haven't thought of yet that might seem to come out of left field? Be like Steve Jobs and think different.