Background for new thread: Previously I had some kind of expectations built into my thread title. My previous thread was “window of opportunity or just a mirage”. I started that thread, just as I started this one - My wife reached out to me and we met up and enjoyed each other’s company. I had hoped that our meeting would be the beginning of a string of more frequent and positive interactions. We didn’t meet up again until last night. While I remain hopeful, I am trying to not have any expectations about future meetings.
Neither one of us is really clear headed right now, thus my fog city reference (but there is double meaning there; fog city by the bay is the general area the w and I live and where w works)
Living separately by mid-March (when w was staying in house I was not and visa versa)
Tons of circumstantial evidence about existence of OM by end of March. I confront w about OM. W denies OM but says that she needs that connection (sex) and will be dating.
W moves out of house 4/15/13
End of April I begin following a text messaging strategy that I found on the internet. I had very little expectations about this strategy but it seemed to work very well.
W began contacting me and asking to meet at the gym or for drinks. I did get the ILYBNILWY speech at one point but things kept progressing until the end of June when we had agreed to go to Las Vegas together in late July. She canceled two days before we were to fly out.
Since then I have backed off on the texting and she has pursued a little. We have met for drinks and dinner twice (including last night) since the canceled trip. This brings us up to date.
(We have not had any negative interactions since the end of March. She did cancel the trip to Las Vegas, but I did not get upset with her. I have not asked her about an OM or her dating. She has volunteered that she is unhappy with her dating.)
Me-45 W-44 T-7 years M-3 years (4th anniversary July 13, but we're separated) Kids from previous relationships (s14 d16 mine, s23, s24 hers)
