Thank you for sharing that very insightful post. For some reason, I think it was delayed in coming through because I checked yesterday and it wasn't there, yet it's dated 9/14.
It seems to be very sound advice.
It's been very hard the past several days. I went away over the weekend to GAL and play in a golf outing. My wife called and said that she and the boys were going down to her sister's to spend the night. I told her that was a great idea and good for them! Turns out, she dropped the kids there and then went to see OM for the night.
I'm trying to accept what's going on, but it's so tough sometimes.
I'm keeping up with the 180's and being very positive and helpful. Keeping my cool, no arguements and lots of patience with the kids.
I really like your suggestion about telling her I know about her affairs, however, I have no idea what her reaction will be. And knowing that at that very moment, the rest of my life will be impacted. That's a little scary.
I see that your wife was involved in an EA. This is a pretty passionate PA I'm dealing with. What are your thoughts about that? Is it significant? Or do they both carry the same weight?
Everything you say makes sense. You laid it our very well. It's just getting the guts up to go through with it. Plus, swinging back and forth about should I or shouldn't I?
You seem very confident that if my W leaves me for him that she'll be back. But, you're right. They only get the absolute best from each other right now. They live in an outright fantasy together with no responsibilities or consequences to this point.
You've really got me thinking here, because I don't know how much more of this deceit I can take to my face.
Vince B M=10 yrs T=13 yrs M45 / H 44 2 Boys 5 & 8 D Day: 7/16/13
