Now I am finding myself thinking about leaving him. When he first moved back in, everything was okay. He helped me with our daughter and the house work. And now, I cannot get him to do anything. I have tried so many times to talk to him about this and he tells me that he will change and he knows he has been slacking lately. So it helps me more for a few days, then he converts right back to being LAZY.
Very sorry to hear you're struggling! First I agree with MrBond that MC is an important part of piecing. The two of you need tools in learning more in-depth communication and you're not going to discover those tools on your own.
Also I think RetroV would be perfect for you, check and see if it's coming to your area anytime soon.
Regarding the fact that he's not doing anything around the house, don't assume he's being lazy. Something may be physically or mentally wrong with him. Encourage him (in the most loving way possible, do not nag!) to see his PCP and get a full physical and he should also get tested for depression. At his age if he's not active his T count is probably on the decline.
Quote:
I feel like I am married to an over grown kid. How can I get him to open his eyes before it's too late?
I really wish my W had gotten us into MC well before she checked out, because had I known she really wanted me to change and that our M was at stake I certainly would have done so. We did go to MC and I did hear what she was saying, but we needed that intermediary for me to fully understand. Unfortunately my W was done by the time we got to MC, so it saved me, but not our M. So that's my advice to you, get to MC before it's too late and let your H know that you're a borderline WAW and your marriage is at risk.
