One giant leap forward! - Part 6

[T1000]

Hill to die on-that she do some of the driving.

I never have to make that decision if I don't want to.

I don't understand this at all. How can it not involve a decision?

We might have to drop this or start again, even I'm getting lost

What scares you about being a chump? And if it's only in your eyes, why do you see yourself that way? Why judge yourself so harshly and call yourself names? Is that how you were controlled in the past?

I'm not scared of being a chump. I am doing way more than I need to. I have never accepted anyone calling me any names unless I wanted it. Me saying chump is just me quickly explaining how I feel about it.

Why will it fail, if she ends up driving how is that a fail?

Because you can't control other people. Do you think she'll end up driving if you demand it? She might once or twice but will it be sustainable? What will happen the next time she gets angry?

If she decides to bring them because I'm working later then it may be so.

This can't be win-win. Originally when I started doing all the driving it wasn't win-win.

There was a win-win, you got to see your kids-She didn't have to drive.

If your looking at it like that my win can be W driving, her win can be she gets rid of the kids or gets the satisfaction from helping them see their father.

What would motivate her to want to do some of the driving. Open your mind, if you just say there is no win-win, you're done.

It's not a win-win, just a win-lose.