I am very distraught still at this moment as my mind cannot wrestle with the fact that this imposter, liar, and cheater has actually accused me of being the aggressor.
I asked before and you didn't reply, are you seeing an IC? You mentioned in your first post that you had serious anger issues (including throwing soup cans at your H) that you "successfully addressed over a 36 month intense therapy period", but it sounds like those serious anger issues are front and center right now. Please get help ASAP, in the next couple of days if possible. You're in a lot of pain and you need tools to process that pain. Anger is NOT the right path.