I can always pick up my kids. It's not a case of me not being able.
You aren't able if it interferes with your work or am I misunderstanding? I get that you don't want to do all the driving, I wouldn't either but I would if I had too. This would not be a hill I was prepared to die on. It may be for you.
I will if I have to, I don't think it's run it's course yet. What do you see as me dying on the hill?
Originally Posted By: labug
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When you say if she disagrees, she disagree and I have a decision to make what do you see as the decision? Seeing my kids or not?
Yes, for that weekend.
I never have to make that decision if I don't want to.
Originally Posted By: labug
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I'm not giving up on her doing her part. I have only just started. I don't see it as a contest, I'm not wanting her to do it for the points, I want her to do it so I can work my job properly, not spend so much time on the road and not feel like a chump. That isn't chump for picking up my kids but a chump for doing it all while W does not.
What points are you talking about? You want her to do something so you don't feel like a chump. Why do you feel like a chump? Does it matter? You're in control of how you feel. Are you concerned that others see you as a chump?
I don't see you as a chump, I see you as a man in a difficult situation trying to do his best.
You mentioned a contest I'm just stating that isn't why I'm doing this in regards to the points. I'm not concerned about others at all. I think if I let her walk all over me in this then yes that would make me a chump in my eyes.
Originally Posted By: labug
I would guess for your wife to agree to drive it's going to need to be a win-win situation, something for you, something for her. That's true of most negotiations. If you go into it thinking you have to control her or make her do what's responsible it will fail.
Why will it fail, if she ends up driving how is that a fail?
Originally Posted By: labug
What would your response be if someone demanded you do something you didn't really want to do?
How can it be a win-win?
I'm not demanding that she do it, I can't do that. For now I will work some Friday afternoons and she will either get involved or put up with that.
This can't be win-win. Originally when I started doing all the driving it wasn't win-win.
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