And, regarding the WAW, it seems to me that LBS men tend to start dating earlier compared to LBS women, so it explains the interests from the WAWs in all your examples.
That's an interesting observation. You may be right, but of course we need to warn anyone reading this that they shouldn't date just as a "trick" to make the WAS change their mind. I think if an LBS were to run out and start dating a couple of weeks or months after BD it would just drive the WAS farther away. The WAS needs a LOT of time to clear the fog and start having fond memories of the LBS before they might look back. I still think that detachment, time and space is what works for the WAS. I think that quite often the LBS thinks they've detached when they are in fact still pursuing. Someone here once said they were boldly telling everyone on these forums that they had dropped the rope while secretly clinging to it behind their back, LOL! I think there's a lot of that happening with LBS's, and the WAS is just never going to look back as long as they see that rope in the LBS's hand.
When LBS's do eventually come to believe that the WAS is done and never coming back, that is usually when they really drop the rope. And they don't do it with any fanfare, often they don't even know they did it. They just quit caring what the WAS is thinking, feeling or doing. They don't reach out to them anymore. They don't have fantasies about a future reconciliation. They don't make excuses to text, call or visit them. They move on. A lot of them start dating at this time. So I guess the question is does the WAS look back because the LBS is dating, or are they looking back because the LBS has moved on and the dating is just a byproduct of that moving on? Maybe it's a little of both.
Turtle, you posted this in my thread:
Originally Posted By: littleGTO
Am struggling with the whole ideo of dating...my H says to me on Friday at ball game "Hope you aren't considering dating....if you were we'd have to be getting D'ed!" The nerve, I thought!!
No kidding, that is some kind of nerve!!! He left the M for OW, but now suddenly he's going to develop some sense of duty-bound honor in marriage because it suits him to do so? I actually thought about this for hours after I read it and still couldn't believe the arrogance of such a statement. SMH!
