Hi fmf,

I am in a similar sitch in that I had taken stress leave and was coming out of my stress fog when I got the blow from my H. It is quite awful to think they couldn't support you through your tough time. I thought things were getting better, when they were not.

He wants you to share with everyone in your life because he is trying to justify his actions. He is filled with guilt and thinks you are the problem right now. Don't listen to this as he will make no sense. Don't believe what he says right now.

Read other's posts here and you will start to get a sense of what is going on.

I found a post in the Midlife Crisis topic that has helped me tremendously today. check it out: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1350825#Post1350825

Hang in there and post as often as you need to, even if it is to journal your feelings. People in here are wise and will help you through it.

Regards, Pud

Me:49 H:47
S: 16
T:27 M:25
My EA: 2001
His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013
Separated, but H still in house

Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.