One giant leap forward! - Part 6

[labug]

I can always pick up my kids. It's not a case of me not being able.

You aren't able if it interferes with your work or am I misunderstanding? I get that you don't want to do all the driving, I wouldn't either but I would if I had too. This would not be a hill I was prepared to die on. It may be for you.

When you say if she disagrees, she disagree and I have a decision to make what do you see as the decision? Seeing my kids or not?

Yes, for that weekend.

I'm not giving up on her doing her part. I have only just started. I don't see it as a contest, I'm not wanting her to do it for the points, I want her to do it so I can work my job properly, not spend so much time on the road and not feel like a chump.
That isn't chump for picking up my kids but a chump for doing it all while W does not.

What points are you talking about?
You want her to do something so you don't feel like a chump.
Why do you feel like a chump? Does it matter? You're in control of how you feel. Are you concerned that others see you as a chump?

I don't see you as a chump, I see you as a man in a difficult situation trying to do his best.

I would guess for your wife to agree to drive it's going to need to be a win-win situation, something for you, something for her. That's true of most negotiations. If you go into it thinking you have to control her or make her do what's responsible it will fail.

What would your response be if someone demanded you do something you didn't really want to do?

How can it be a win-win?