YEs I know what to do, stay dark and n/c as I have been for a month. Unfortunately with her Bday I will peek out for just a second to say HB, then go back to n/c. I would like to ignore it and not say anything but that is not who I am no matter how she feels towards me.........
Yes you're doing well 2old I for one feel that you're finally getting this DB thing and I know you'll be ok if you don't get a response from her You know the saying though, once bitten twice shy, well I've been bitten once so I won't be sending my H any cards now or in the near future! Not unless he sends me one first. Anyway the next time I would be sending H a card will be Christmas so I'll see if I get one first before responding.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
You know TTD, I think that now I have accepted things for what they are it's got to be about me and my 2 little girls (dogs). They are great dogs and would never think about walking away from me...lol...I have also tried to stop guessing what W is thinking as she is doing the WAS script thing. That is all I need to know now. It's amazing to me how there really seems to be a science to this. If she truly hates or is done with me I have no control over that. I will be staying strong knowing occassionally there will be bad moments.........
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
so I did indeed email the short HB and of course nothing back. Why am I NOT surprised...The good news here is I had absolutely NO EXPECTATIONS......I did the right thing and I know it. After a month of n/c I peeked out for just a moment and now it is back to being dark and no contact.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
You know TTD, I think that now I have accepted things for what they are it's got to be about me and my 2 little girls (dogs). They are great dogs and would never think about walking away from me...lol...I have also tried to stop guessing what W is thinking as she is doing the WAS script thing. That is all I need to know now. It's amazing to me how there really seems to be a science to this. If she truly hates or is done with me I have no control over that. I will be staying strong knowing occassionally there will be bad moments.........
2old, you are so right about being a science to this.
Originally Posted By: 2old
so I did indeed email the short HB and of course nothing back. Why am I NOT surprised...The good news here is I had absolutely NO EXPECTATIONS......I did the right thing and I know it. After a month of n/c I peeked out for just a moment and now it is back to being dark and no contact.
You did the right thing. The accepting of no expectations is good. But more importantly you can feel proud of being a good person who is doing the right things.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
thank you pudmuddle, this has not been an easy journey for me, However, detachment and acceptance is definately helping me along the way...Also the veterans of DB and other supporters comments really help put things in perspective.
I for one feel that you're finally getting this DB thing and I know you'll be ok if you don't get a response from her 
