Man, that has to be tough. All I can say is that you really need to focus on yourself and your kids. I'm on moderation now since I'm new too...so I don't know when you'll see this, but I'm also working on myself and focusing on my kids. Read the posts put up by others and I would suggest getting some phone coaching. The coaching has helped me quite a bit actually. There's a lot of good stuff on these boards.
M 42 W 43 D 10 S 6 M 13 T 15 Wife wants to separate and says our marriage is over 8/30/13 Trying telephone coaching