Separated, D filed, possible emotional affair

[NTX_Dad]

No no, sorry John, I am not cheering the 2x4 in a bad way. I just meant that fly's advice was well said and well thought out. I agree with what fly said but had trouble putting it into words.

We are all cheering for you. I would never cheer for divorce or failure. I think the keys to fly's posts were that you really need to detach, work on yourself, and give it enough time for you and your W to figure things out.

I went though a one year separation last year and looking back, I'd say it took at least 3 months just to get over the fighting, texting, name calling, etc. Months 4-8 were productive and minimal contact for me, that's when the real work started.

You can do it!

Does your health insurance pay for therapy? Mine did, and I started going weekly in the 2nd month, and it was a huge help for me. I also read lots of books, including Michele's Divorce Busting stuff. I highly recommend them.