Devastated

[sweetbabyred]

I know how hard it is when you find out that they're actually thinking about going through with a D.

But I also feel that some spouses feel that they need to D in order to get a clean break. That way, if they do decide to try again, it's beginning a new relationship and not trying to fix the old one.

My xh told me that he felt he needed to D because he knew that I wouldn't even think about seeing someone else until we were finally over. And if we do try to work on things, we will have both had the opportunity to see what else is out there and will have made the decision to come back together.

He said he wasn't sure if he'd ever fix himself and didn't want to keep me waiting while he tried to figure it out. While I didn't want a D, at least I'm now free to live my life while I can still hope that my prodigal spouse returns.