Looking for New Options If H Wants Divorce

[MyNewStrength]

All I am losing it. Please help. Here is what I got from my H this morning.

Wife,

I talked to my lawyer this morning about what happened between us yesterday. She advised me that if I chose, I could have the court issue a protective order against you that would order the cessation of the violent behavior and require you to move out of the house. I'm not going to do that. My lawyer also advised me to move out. I am going to do that.

I can't understand why or how you recorded me talking to other people. If your hope is to use that to prove something in the court proceedings, all it will prove is what ever it represents, sate it for the record, it will not have any affect on the outcome of the division of the assets in the state of Virginia. And, the act of you recording me without my consent is a felony in Virginia, with jail time. So you should think carefully about what you want to do with it.
http://www.dmlp.org/legal-guide/recording-phone-calls-and-conversations
http://www.dmlp.org/legal-guide/virginia-recording-law

You know that I had hoped we could work through this like two adults, friends, without the adversarial behaviors, without the violence. I have been trying to do that and you keep resisting. I want the best possible outcome for the both of us and for us to achieve that as quickly and painlessly as we can, for the both of us. Having to work this through the lawyers is also going to cost us thousands of dollars. I would still prefer us to work out the agreement. Only now, I insist we do that via email. No more phone calls. No more texts. No more harassment. And if you prefer, I guess we'll work it through our lawyers. Your choice.

We'll work out some times for me to get my stuff down the road - so you don't have to be there when I do.

I need to provide my your lawyer's contact info if it has changed. Please let me know. My lawyer is XXXX, XXXXXXX, in case I hadn't already provided that info to you.

Please send me an email to let me know you received this.

XXXXXX, please let us do this as friends, adults and friends.

Husband