It's not that I can't do the driving or she can't do the driving.
I don't want to do it all. She doesn't want to do any of it.
I want to be a man that doesn't let his XW run rings around him which she is currently doing and only I can stop that. She has been controlling me for a while now and it's been working very well for her. I'm not saying I want to control her but I don't want to be walked over either.
I could sit here now and think I will do all driving just because W doesn't want to, to me that is giving up. Why should I be running myself ragged, leaving work early and spending hours on the road when she just gets to chill out at home. I'm not having it if I help it. It's not about punishing her or winning it's about sharing the responsibility.
I did read that book, I loved it because it was so short and to the point. It's not until I just read them again after you wrote them that I am much closer to being that than I was.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14