Met wife this morning (she wanted me to deliver some duty free perfume that she had asked me to buy while on holiday)& had a 45 minute chat. First face to face for many weeks.
Throughout the chat she was tearful & upset & continued to mention how I didn’t listen, she also mentioned she had another short affair last year!! I spoke quietly, calmly & Validated…Validated & Validated.
She confirmed she is still with OM & how they have not had an argument & life is better & calmer for her & she is hoping he will move to the area but not sure. She also said he has issues too! She then went on to say how her S16 has been an absolute problem since we split up & is not dealing with it well, again I validated over & over again.
It was lovely to see her but I don’t see any change in the short to medium term, she seems very messed up & said she was the catalyst for it all to which I stated it was mainly me & my MLC that drove her away. She also kept saying I’ll find someone else.
Then after I’d left she sent a text saying I was looking great, much fitter & less stressed, so I think it was really a good idea to see her.
A feel good day but probably me reading too much into situation as usual.
At least she noticed I was looking good!
Me 50 W 46 Stepson 16 Together 6yr, Married 3yr Known each other 20yr ILYBNILWY Jul 13 Found out about affair Jul 13 Left Marital home Jul 13
