Thank you for sticking with me through this. You have helped immeasurably.
I have a few questions:
Fartiltre, you wrote "None of what you say can go against D". I don't understand what you mean.
Isn't Mr. Bond's "Ice Queen" name calling? It sounds like an attack to my ears.
I just talked to a friend at length about this. He suggested that I not attack my W via you statements, but instead stick to using I, like this, with the goal of maintaining some amicability to see things through (please edit as needed):
Here is how I see things, and you should know that I am very angry about this. I have been kind, generous, and respectful to you for the last 10 years. I have tried to rebuild our relationship again and again, in many different ways. I have tolerated your having an affair. I've felt insulted, judged, and disrespected by how you have spoken to and treated me, which made me feel like c--p in the process. Separating me nightly from our family was horrible. What do you think the kids thought? What did they learn? I did not appreciate learning from A**** that we were moving in the spring. There is no longer any need to be told that I have Asperger's, that my family is lousy, or that I am deficient in some manner. Well, I am done with being treated and spoken to that way. If you cannot behave, then there is no point in our talking until you can. I will always have warm feelings for you. I feel like if you had put more effort into this, we would not be at this juncture. What a sad day our paths have lead to, what unnecessary pain and loss, what a legacy for the whole, forever broken, by your choice, family.
Your p-ss-- off husband, L.
I think this sets my boundaries and expresses what I feel, without attacking her back. It may be wiser to not attack, particularly if I want to work out somehow staying in the house.
Tell her this tonight, face to face? Email from airport tomorrow morning? I leave the house at 5am or so.
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
