I've not been watching BBT tonight, lol, I've actually been to bible study smile I was trying to find an emoticon there for angel but couldn't find one, lol.
Anyway, I think all things consider you're doing really well MH smile I would agree with your W about the D, with me it's easy as the bible doesn't agree with D. That's the reason that I would give my H if it ever came up again.
Well done on completing your mammoth task smile I agree with you that we need more time to be the spouse only a fool would leave. Like you I'm not there yet either!
It's very emotional and messy for both sides getting a D, so maybe you can put that across to her. I would also say that you agree to wait a while and you understand that things haven't changed between you. It must be disheartening to hear her say that, especially after going out together as often as you do. It's the type of statement that always makes my blood run cold!
Even if she does have this OM, it can't be serious as she would still be after a D. Would she still be going out with you as much if she did have an OM? People must see you both out and about and wonder what's going on!
Good luck whatever you decide to do. Keep smiling smile The book that you recommended is good btw smile

H47 me48
T22 M21
S20 - Got high functioning autism
3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her
11/2000 H moves back home
2/4/13 H moves out
H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!