LL - I finally told W to send me the paperwork, I'd sign it, and I'd move on. We were converting it from a divorce to a dissolution. I kept asking her to let me know, kept getting back from her that the attorney was busy, etc, etc. It's a VERY simple procedure, should've taken a couple of days, and it's been almost two weeks.
When I told her I was "done and ready to sign", she then asked me to give her more time to think about things, and so on.
I can't guarantee that agreeing with her on the D is the right thing for YOU, but I know that many WAS use the D as a weapon because they know it's what you fear. I think I'd absolutely say, "Hey, let's wait until I get back - I'm going to be flying, jetlagged, etc, and I want to make sure I can focus on it." If she pushes it, firmly say, "No, I am not going to take it lightly, and I won't deal with it until I return."
