Thanks folks. I guess my comments really aren't seeking much feedback, more thoughts let out. As far as the lease, back a couple of weeks ago when she came back, we actually both agreed it was good for her to keep the lease, and force us to take several months to work on stuff before we got back together as a family and took on those requirements again. We only dated 5 months before getting married, so this would be a better amount of time to hammer out our relationship. Also, W has always had help with kids, a good income, and she's struggling to find full-time work, and has no one to help her with the kids.
But I do think you're right about going dark - every time I go dark, she really responds. And W told the guy that she would never date him, they'd never have a relationship, etc - and the way her mind is right now, she'd have no problem letting him help her and thinking nothing of it. She'd just say "thanks, have some pizza". Basically using him for heavy labor. The flip side is she's probably using me as well, at least to the degree that she's keeping me around.
However, I think things will change quickly once Friday comes and I don't contact her. A lady that went through almost W's situation - divorced at 28, single mom with two kids. Married later on, and facing divorce after 3 years (like we are) and she and her husband reconciled and have an amazing marriage. She contacted me and said she felt like God was pressing her to call W and share her story. It was a great moment when you sometimes feel a bit alone or like no one cares.
Regardless, I'm dark. I may have to contact once at the end of the week because of divorce proceedings, but it'll be short, direct, and via email with no discussion. I feel good, detached, got through the worst of it. Our sons go to the same private school, and I even drove past her this morning, and was like, "Oh well."
