Thanks for your scheme re D and being in the US. Yes, it would be much better to not have to deal with this while on a trip. I will tell my W this.
I don't think it makes sense to get D before the summer in any case, as we can't move until son is back from college, daughter has finished her term, and W hers (she teaches), etc. I will plant tulips secretly, again, in any case, something I have done for the past few years, so we can at least enjoy those.
I don't want to do this dating thing. W "helpfully" suggested that I do this. It was more a question of principle...
What do you think of the idea of taking the apartment in the basement? Is hanging on to the old house a good idea, or is it better to make a clean break? I do love the view and garden and location.
Perhaps having a clause that keeps me in the basement will make it harder to sell the house, but it is a very fine property, and I am not a troublesome tenant, I think. This way W could sell her half in any case, and I could either sell or keep mine; either way someone else could live in the upper two floors.
Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
