I agree with Sandi2 2old and not your pastor. Unless your pastor reads DB, he doesn't understand what system you're working on if that makes sense.
It's the same with my counsellor. I'm afraid I don't do anything she tells me to do, she's always telling me to confront him about this and that. I should say to her that I think I don't need counselling anymore, but I've not got the heart to say that, lol.
Best thing to do with your pastor is just nod your head and agree and then carry on with DB smile That's what I have to do to some of my know-it-all friends and my counsellor smile

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S20 - Got high functioning autism
3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her
11/2000 H moves back home
2/4/13 H moves out
H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!