Bringing this second post from your old thread, Luke. __________________________________________
Wonka, Mr. Bond,
There is no hurry to file in one way, as we likely should have the house until the end of the school year (just a lot less hassle for everyone). I also do not think she can finish all the renovation in 6 months. I always have the option of not consenting to the divorce, and thereby get 6 months more. She wants to file however, that is clear, and mentioned that she didn't need me to agree.
Talk about repeated blows to the gut.
Mr. Bond: T and I discussed setting up a lunch club for men, which I am doing. First date is Oct. 17. I also saw my French guy friend this past Saturday, for drumming to the sunset and dinner. That front is advancing at least.
Wonka: the funny thing is that I am often good with people - I smiled at a woman with a nice dog today, she smiled back, and then also at the supermarket, getting a nice gaze back from the cashier. I walk tall, generally (being tall helps). So yes, I can do that.
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Not sure any of this will make a difference in the slide toward D, but at least I can be happier.
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What attitude to take toward W? Do I help her out in this, make the D mutual (by also signing the paperwork), help out renovating? I don't want an enemy later, as I imagine we will still need to communicate sometimes. Do I embrace the D or fight it? I treated her in a confident manner during this latest round.
What a lousy way to have my world messed with, a marvelous send-off present for Wednesday's long trip to the States.
I still think my W is beautiful and smart and sexy and my physical type, but boy, is she difficult to live with. I am changing for the better, more toward her type, but it is quite probably too late (she said so).
Do I start internet dating (the EE folks have helped me prepare a profile) or go see an old (divorced) girlfriend in Denmark or contact a woman I met on the plane this summer? If this is to the final act, how shall it be played?
