Please see the end of Unlearning Conflict Avoidance 5, where recent developments are reported.
All this was said clearly by her, without a shaking, emotional voice. We've had 10 years of no contact, so perhaps this is rational speech and the usual "disregard most of what they say" advice no longer applies.
Signing D papers makes things painfully final and concrete. Do I fight or give in?
One small silver lining to a divorce before the summer is that any bonus I get is later in the year, so she gets no part of that. I'd give her the bonus if it fixed things.
L
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
