Thanks TTD, Yes, I'm am in full DB swing mode. And I believe that I am actually doing better because of the lack of contact with her. Pastor however, wants me to say HB and follow up on her getting back to me about filing for divorce. He suggests asking for the simple courtesy of her intentions. And if she again doesn't respond then he says that would show how she wants nothing to do with me. I guess he is right about that but I'm just not sure if that is the case. BUT, as sandi2 said if I were to push this I probably wouldnt like the answer and that I believe is absolutely right.