I mentioned in my last update about how W has been showing up really late to pick up S10 at my house (after school) on the weeks she has the kids. I was curious, so kept track of what time she picked him up this past week:
His bedtime is supposed to be 10:00. She had originally committed to picking up up no later than 6:00pm each day. Hmmmm. On Wednesday I had a date at 8:30 and had to call W about 7:30 to ask when she'd be picking S up. She said she wanted to go shopping and run some errands first (well at least she has her priorities established!) I told her I was "meeting someone for dinner" at 8:30 and could she pick him up by 8:00. She agreed to, and didn't press for any details. As posted above she still didn't show up until 8:20 though! I was dressed up when she finally got there, so I'm sure she knew I wasn't going out with the boys!
The date was a flop, the lady was nice enough and attractive but there just wasn't any spark there.
I did also go out with another lady over the weekend, she's someone I've seen a few times over the last several months. There IS a spark there. I don't see it going anywhere at least until the D is underway though.
Had a great weekend capped off by a nice ride with my Harley "gang" yesterday. Morning temps were perfect! We had 7 bikes on this ride. We went to a little home-cooking place a little over an hour away, had a great lunch and took the scenic route back. It was mid-90's by the time we got home and getting a little toasty!
Went to pick up S10 at W's house, talked to her a while before we left. Chatted about her radiation treatments, work, etc. It's the longest convo we've had in a while. I kept trying to leave, but she kept finding new things to say, seemed like she was trying to keep me there. I waited for another break in the convo and told her I needed to head off. Not sure what that was about, maybe she was just bored.
Originally Posted By: HopefulStill
AS, Sorry to hear the state of your situation. In my wife's EA, she would make comments about what a great father the OM was to his kids, and the two would spend a lot of time talking on the phone about being proud parents etc.. Funny thing is, when I finally contacted his wife, one of her chief complaints was that he wasn't being a good father and was hardly home!
LOL! If "love is blind", WAS love is clueless
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I guess I'm trying to say that sooner or later, she will see his faults. Perhaps she will even let herself remember that you were, in fact, a good dad.
I'm sure you're right. Luckily I'm secure enough in my parenting abilities that I'm not hurt by her comments, it just makes me roll my eyes and think "SERIOUSLY???" Haha!
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You are living your own truth. Your kids will always know the truth. Stay the course, one day this woman may be your wife again....
Thank you, great stuff there
Originally Posted By: kate's_place
AS-running out of time will be a regret that W will have to deal with down the line. That'll suk, but it won't be your issue.
I agree. It's ironic that she feels like she has to run to OM because "time is running out", but then if she ever clears the fog and wants her family back the dynamics will have changed a lot because of the time she was away.
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D14 writes on a popular website where you make up alternate endings or continue stories...very manga and alternative culture based. She kinda rocks.
She would get along really well with my D18, she does all that too! She and her bestie both. They love writing stories both alone and in groups with others online, and they are always drawing their characters and posting them on sites like deviantART.
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ADHD is tough, your S sounds like a super cool kid.
Thanks, he's very sweet, kind and polite. Also very artistic. Likes to build things like dad! He really seems OK at home, when he was evaluated it was the teachers' reports that flagged him as ADHD. The doctors said it's because he gets the focus and attention he needs at home. He can't get that one-on-one attention at school, so he takes medication for it. Takes it in the morning and it's effective while at school, but wears off by the afternoon when he gets home. It does take a lot of patience, but he really is a good kid!
