H called the other day to tell me he found an apartment a month and a half earlier than expected. Its $1, 100 a month and he called to let me know he'd be taking money from out joint savings toncover the depost ans rent. The joint savings was ar $4, 000 in June before BD.... H has single handedly taken it down to $1, 500 and as of today, bc of this new apartment he got, its now $358.
In the past that wouldve made me mad....but I truly don't care.
My concern is this: once H uses ul the little money left in there.... I fesr he's going to ask me for money from a private savings that only has my name one it (before BD I asked him to come to the bank with me several months ago to put his name on it...but he didn't want to). After BD he told me I could have the private savings (I am the only one who contibuted to it, he never put a dime in there..its all money from my job) ...basically, imo, trying to get out of supporting me....he knows I will never touch the money in the private savings...it will hopefully be used to help buy a house one day....a house that wouldve been for us...but now will just be me I guess.
so...if he does ask me for help financially....what do I do? After BD In July he asked me for $1, 000 from the private savings....I gave him $600. He said he'd pay it back...of course he hasn't.
So I'm nervous he'll ask again and put me on the spot trying to make me the bad guy....when really its him that shouldve been patient...his rent where he is is now is under $500 ...why would you move 2 months early?
me: 30 H:30 tgthr:7 m:4 no kids 5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012 long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012 official BD: July 2013 nothing filed 1/1/14 I dropped the rope
