I got a questions here. Hoping to understand more. When will the WAS stop spewing and getting angry about the little stuff? Will the WAS regrets leaving? What triggers the regret? Will the WAS do some sort of soul searching and actually better themselves? What to do if that eventually comes?
I don't suppose all WAS regrets but what is the ballpark figure here?
The answer to the first 4 questions are maybe, at some point. 5th question isn't relevant unless well after the the 1st 4 happen. All you can do is be the best person you can be.
Your looking for an answer that doesn't exist.
Stop thinking about W, I know it's hard, we have all found it very hard at some point. If it bothers you seeing bedsheets and so on don't go in the house. I'm welcome at W's house but I do not go unless there is a specific reason. Don't tell her he has plenty of time to do things. It doesn't help you at all. If your late apologise like you would to anyone else. If you have a meeting at 2:00 and need an hour beforehand tell her before you take the kids that you will have to have them back at 1:00 and that you have an appointment, she doesn't have to know it's at 2:00. Don't tell her you have changed. Why would she believe you unless she see's it and makes up her own mind.
You say there is no turning back for W and OM. Wouldn't every one have said that about you a while ago. Things change for good and for bad. Appreciate the good, walk on past the bad.
Put a sticky in your car with some rules on to read before you go to W's, to remind you of where you are, what your goals are and what you need to be doing and not doing to achieve them goals.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
