Portia, You have made great strides in moving forward. You've had a lot on your plate in the last year or so. Your SO walked away, a parent passed away and another parent is in the hospital. All of these events have changed you, i.e., made you even stronger and more independent. Don't think that we haven't noticed how Portia has grown through all of this.
"Assumptions" is a word that many make when the MLCer is circling earth. I agree w/Bea that no one in their right mind would call and tell the person that they left that they have made changes, etc. He's not only trying to convince you that things are going well, but himself. They do love to gaslight and paint a rosy picture so that we will think that they are doing well. They do not want to admit to us or themselves that they are living a very dull, depressed existence.
About his phone, maybe he has opted to cancel the home line and is using only his cell. A lot of people are doing that to cut down on expenses. We don't know that for sure, but the answer will come in time.
As for him contacting you...he will when he has a moment of clarity once again and requires some ego kibbles from you.
I can understand being angry and bitter, but you will need to find a way to release those feelings. You do not want to remain stuck.
On to another subject...how is your parent doing? What about you? Did you take any time for yourself this summer? What projects are you planning to complete. Portia, it's time to take care of yourself a little bit and leave your SO flapping in the wind.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
