One giant leap forward! - Part 6

[T1000]

What is best for the kids?
They need to see me enough. How much is enough?

Only you and your W can work that one out.

This is the part I totally don't get.
It's like me telling my neighbour to cut my grass on a Saturday morning. That's what I want and that is what I want to stick to. I keep repeating to him that I want it cut.
He doesn't cut the grass because he doesn't want to.
My W doesn't want to do it so how do I make it happen in anyway?

You have no legal binding ties to your neighbor and his grass. You do have legally binding ties to your kids and rights as far as how much you see them.

It's back to boundaries, either you believe in them or you don't.

I believe many of her days are like that.
That still doesn't make it my problem though does it?

She moved to where her parents live.

I didn't mean to imply that it was your problem, just having some empathy for both of you and others in that situation. Sounds like you want to teach her a lesson, that usually backfires. Let life teach her whatever lessons she needs to learn.

It can be a problem for your kids.

I don't think it's good when a parent moves with the kids to a place that makes it more difficult for the other parent to visit. But in your case, that horse is out of the barn, what can you do now to ensure that you see your kids regularly?
Glad you had a good time at the reunion.

I have a legal binding in how much I see my kids. I'm not aware of a legal binding that ties her to the driving.
I can't see how Boundaries comes into it. Can you explain?

How is life going to teach her that lesson if I keep throwing my jacket on every puddle she comes across?
I think I do have empathy for her and her situation. I feel that if I let that effect my decision I will continue to have a wet jacket.
If her learning life lessons is a result of me living my own life then so be it.