We've talked about this. I think we all get to different crossroads during our journey, and you and I are at one right now.
When we begin this journey, and I'm speaking from my personal experience, I think we often feel that we would do anything to keep our spouses. No cost seemed too high.
But as time went on, I started to realize... Hey, I have feelings. I have wants and needs. I have standards. I matter.
Once we realize this, I think things change for the better for us.
Yes, the crisis is all about them. My H has even told me several times that he wants me to realize this is about him.
It may be all about them, but their crisis does not occur in a vacuum. Their choices often times do affect our lives in many ways - usually, not for the better.
I am with you Raine... Eventually, I will need to see some understanding and remorse for the damage that has been done. Not groveling or begging or pleading - but a sincere admission of wrong doing and a desire to fix what has been broken.
Could I forgive my H without this? Most likely. Can we restore our M without this? I don't think so.
Snodderly, I can see why you stress patience at this time. When our MLCers are totally gone on the Mothership, things are easier in a way. It's when they start to touch down to earth - and reality - that things get even more frustrating and complicated.
Raine, I just got the keys to my patience back ho - I think my shovel was ready to snap- feel free to borrow anytime
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
