Two Roads Diverged In a Yellow Wood... Part 2

[Not Quitting]

NQ, I am going to set up a bank appt for Monday. They would have an idea what I should do with my banking to set it up in this type of scenario?? I think setting up my own chequing acct would be wise.

Definitely a chequing acct for a start. I set up a chequing account which doesn't have a monthly fee, and it pays interest. It also automatically has a savings account linked to it. And to make it even better, every time I use my debit card I earn points which I can redeem for groceries (that should tell which financial institute).

LuckyLuke, you are right, I should start keeping a close eye on money, starting now, and how much we are spending. I am a little worried about how to go about handling finances. Perhaps I will look up some articles on the internet to help as well.

Definitely keep an eye on the joint account, and your line of credit if you have one – you should become familiar with anything that is in joint names.

I am also going to get some advice from people who have lawyer friends. I feel lost! On one hand, I feel like since he is the one wanting to separate, why not let HIM deal with everything? On the other hand, I want to be prepared and make sure everything is done fairly. I am just worried things will get out of control if we don't start separating finances.

You’re right that you need to protect yourself, but I totally agree with letting him do the work. It was his decision to separate, not yours.

Stay strong, you can get through this. Keep up DBing while you're at it - even if just to make yourself stronger and better at this point.