Rosa, She's just someone new and who knows what kind of BS she's been filling his head with over the last year. She stroked his ego and made him feel special. He may have talked to her about things that he should have been talking to you about.
I can assure you...she's a long step down from ever being you. Mlcers generally affair down, not up. He may feel far more superior w/her than he was w/you.
I understand the question about what does she have than you don't...but it's nothing more than something new and different, along w/the fantasy of la la land.
I will just read this as if it is for me as well. My H has said as much, and admits it felt good, while saying he knows she's not to make a life with. He knows it not real and admits most of it has been a fantasy that fizzled out.
What did ea have over me, the freedom he felt when he went down to fantasy land, it could have been anyone, his words. Their not special!
So why with all of this info and intelligence was all posses, does it hurt so fricken much?
That's the part we are trying to get past now, at least I am, I have a life, I want a partner! I want an appology!
I am at a hate stage, is there such thing, well I'm there! But, it's ok, I'm not letting it eat me up, just fuel me forward.
The past can't be ahead of you in the future. You don't have to figure it all out, just pick a direction. What's next...I don't know but I can't wait!
