Our family a regency had a very poor outcome. My husband doesn't deal well with this stuff (stuff it in a box and never think about it again)and essentially ran away to hide (with his friends). He came by this morning, made me tea while I was in the shower and he opened up.
He had actually thought about his reaction, and while it maybe won't change, he talked to me about it. We had a really nice talk, nothing about our M, or issues, but just talked. He told me about the stupid things a coworker was doing, i told him some of my work silliness.
As he was getting ready to go, I said, this was really nice, he said, yeah when we're not fighting, I really like this too.
He said he would come by tomorrow or Tuesday (I didn't ask) and I then offered to cook a family dinner on Tuesday. He said he would really like that.
As many times as I keep slipping, I like to think I am learning.
I spent sometime with a very skittish horse today. I was told that no one is able to catch him except his owner. I was patient, kind, held no expectations and rewarded every step towards me. It took me about 10 minutes to get him to stop eyeing me with suspicion, relax and let me close. I had never met this horse before. Behind me I could hear Nother woman say, "Oh wow, he is never this trusting."
Probably a bad analogy, but it occurs to me, that instead of chasing the horse around the field, yelling and demanding, kindness and patience did it.....maybe if I turn that processor how I interact with my H, I wonder what results I will see?
My big things right now: -Listen more than I speak -No expectations....this is hard...but I am slowly improving -Patience -Kindness
