Raine, Patience! I know that I remind people about patience all of the time, but is very important to dig deeper now than ever before. Your h is a very fragile man, even if he doesn't appear to look or act like it. This is the hardest part of the journey and it will require a lot of patience and counting to 10 many times over.
The apology you may get will not be the type of apology that we would offer up, but there will come a time when he will give you some indication of his remorse. The resentment you are feeling is very normal and as you both continue to travel the Yellow Brick Road, you will find that the dynamics in your situation will continue to change. The finish line is a bit far off yet, but I do think you both will make it there and go on to have a better marriage than ever before.
Until then, continue to keep the focus on you and your boys. BTW, how are the little ones doing? Take care of yourself and be sure to do some fun things for yourself. It is very important that you do. Happiness helps keep us sane and healthy.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
