Thanks Bea. I guess it is stupid. I just don't know my H's address, but wanted to see what sort of place he might be staying in. I admit I'm insatiably curious about her, what does she have that I don't.....besides my H of course? She IS a tramp, with an agenda! Questions without answers, and not even worth asking, right?
Linda
Me 65, Ex 64 M 38 y 2 adult S, 4 G-Kids MLC 11/07 BD 12/09 D 3/14 Dating nice guy 7/14 Engaged to nice guy 12/17
Rosa, She's just someone new and who knows what kind of BS she's been filling his head with over the last year. She stroked his ego and made him feel special. He may have talked to her about things that he should have been talking to you about.
I can assure you...she's a long step down from ever being you. Mlcers generally affair down, not up. He may feel far more superior w/her than he was w/you.
I understand the question about what does she have than you don't...but it's nothing more than something new and different, along w/the fantasy of la la land.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
RL, I have read through a lot of your posts about your journey. You seem like such a kind, warm-hearted, funny, thoughtful person. You have such a nice personality and such a passion for life. Don't let thoughts of him drag you down.. live life like the diva you are!
M: 8 yrs T:14 Twins:7 S:5 BD:'NLILWY': Feb/2013 Mar/Apr/May: MC June: "living in limbo" Sept 12: H moves out Oct 20: reconciling Jan-Feb 2014:MC Feb 2014: separating, and H moved out.
Thanks Snodderly, that helps a lot. My H has the WORST self esteem, what with not being able to hold down steady employment over the past 6 years, so he probably does feel superior to the Russian Tramp, thanks. And I can just imagine how she plays him up, on her evil quest to legal green card status. Who cares if her getting what she wants destroys a family?
And CP, what a nice thing to say! It has occurred to me that the folks who are committed to this forum are all really nice, smart, funny; really dedicated to their spouses and willing to work hard to try to save their marriages. More proof, T2's clipboard in hand, that MLC is real, otherwise who would want to leave such a fabulous bunch of folks????
It was SO nice to meet you uR! Thanks for all your support and friendship! I must admit, for everyone else who is fooled by uRw's advanced wisdom into thinking she might be as old as me, she's NOT, she is young and totally adorable!
I am packing for my trip, and looked up the Air India baggage policy to see what is permitted as hand luggage and found, nestled in the list of permitted items, like an umbrella and cellphone, "A 'Kirpan' with a total maximum length of 9 inches (22.86 cms.), but a blade not exceeding 06 (six) inches (15.24 cms.), is permitted for carriage by a Sikh Passenger on his person"
Geez Louise, and I chose Air India because I thought it would be fun and exotic. Uh oh......
Linda
Me 65, Ex 64 M 38 y 2 adult S, 4 G-Kids MLC 11/07 BD 12/09 D 3/14 Dating nice guy 7/14 Engaged to nice guy 12/17
Rosa, She's just someone new and who knows what kind of BS she's been filling his head with over the last year. She stroked his ego and made him feel special. He may have talked to her about things that he should have been talking to you about.
I can assure you...she's a long step down from ever being you. Mlcers generally affair down, not up. He may feel far more superior w/her than he was w/you.
I understand the question about what does she have than you don't...but it's nothing more than something new and different, along w/the fantasy of la la land.
I will just read this as if it is for me as well. My H has said as much, and admits it felt good, while saying he knows she's not to make a life with. He knows it not real and admits most of it has been a fantasy that fizzled out.
What did ea have over me, the freedom he felt when he went down to fantasy land, it could have been anyone, his words. Their not special!
So why with all of this info and intelligence was all posses, does it hurt so fricken much?
That's the part we are trying to get past now, at least I am, I have a life, I want a partner! I want an appology!
I am at a hate stage, is there such thing, well I'm there! But, it's ok, I'm not letting it eat me up, just fuel me forward.
The past can't be ahead of you in the future. You don't have to figure it all out, just pick a direction. What's next...I don't know but I can't wait!
RL, Have a safe and wonderful trip. Please leave the mlc saga here in the States. The time you spend across the pond will be wonderful and hopefully you will get some rest. Please be sure to follow your doctor's orders when it comes to your recovery from surgery.
Enjoy! Don't forget our "brelly"!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Correction for the last line "your brelly". I truly wish they would turn the edit button back on.
Enjoy your trip and be sure to do the high tea and the scones are to die for!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Oh Rosa, I haven't been on in ages trying to take a break but was thinking your trip was coming up and it is.
Have a wonderful time. Hope the eye is better and doesn't give you any trouble on the trip. Try not to think of any of this stuff and just enjoy life!!
Can't wait to hear about everything when you return.
M 48 H 50 M 25 T 27 D 20,18,15 6/11 H filed 3/12 H dropped 4/12 H moved out
Have a wonderful trip! I agree with Snodderly, forget all about your mlcer and just have fun.
I hope that this trip is everything you want it to be and more.
M36 XH34 M-5 T7 4/11 H confused 5/11 ILYB 6/11 OW discovered 7/11 I move out, OW over 5/12-OW2,done->new EA, but H wont file 9/12 H "best bf ever" to EA/OW3 3/13 H/OW break up H files 4/13 D 6/18/13
